Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Candice do not read this entry... cuz I am not paying for your therapy

 
Today was either half good or half bad... I am struggling, trying to see the good not the bad yanno... 
I had to keep reminding myself...
 
here is the conversation with myself all day
 
"Ohhhh those Bastards... No... I have to come from a place of gratefulness... the glass is half full... it is NOT half empty"
 
Grrrrr............ it was an emotionally draining day... for more reasons than picking up our stolen bike...
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Sam, GiGi, Rider and I jumped in the truck and drove the hour up to 29 Palms... after putting $75.00 in the truck for gas
[diesel right now is currently $4.03 a gallon here in California] 
 Grrrrr already... but I tried to be grateful...
"I am grateful for having the money to put the gas in the truck.... even tho I want to choke the bastards who are causing me to drive up there... oops be grateful... I am grateful for the police finding our stolen bike... I will be especially grateful for a hard judge who will put the bastards away for a long time... oops... the glass is half full and I am lucky today to be able to have this adventure with my husband and my dogs"
 
Ohhh wow! talk about the good angel, bad devil on my shoulder all day... 
I swear it was difficult...
especially after seeing my bike...
They took the stickers off just like we thought they would... then they took black spray paint and spray painted the front fender, number plate, back fender and tried to make the blue frame black... then they rode the HELL out of my poor baby... they obviously crashed numerous times on her as she is all scratched up...
Ooooo I was so mad... but again... trying to come from a place of seeing the best in this situation... 
I think the Lord must have been trying to show me how lucky I am...  2 guys from Costa Mesa [3 hours away] were there picking up their Quad that got stolen 2 years ago! It was at the same property as ours... sadly their bike was in pieces...
so it could have been worse but Oooo I was still angry and trying HARD not to be!
A good thing did come out of it tho... Sam wants to tow some stuff up to the high desert house from our business.  So the tow truck guy said when he has a tow job down to Palm Springs... he would contact us and give us a big discount... OK... see I am trying to be positive... I am trying to see the good...
 
After we left 29 Palms we drove to our high desert house in Landers...
 Where a whole other wave of angry feelings came over us...
 
Remember when we fired our son Kris a few months back?  Well, he has had a hard time getting steady work... Hhhhhmmm imagine that... we are not such bad employers after all... he had 40 hours a week with us but he couldn't get along with the other employees remember... we made him go to anger management classes blah blah blah
Well, Sam told Kris if he didnt have any work while we were gone for 3 weeks to go to the high desert house and he gave him a LONG list of stuff to do... days worth of work... but we will NEVER hire him as a full time employee ever again... we were just trying to help him out... He has to make the money for rent or whatever we are NOT going to give it to him yanno...Anyway, he has entitlement issues I swear...
[I always think of the conversation we had about it Mary.. that really hit home with me]
Well, Kris didn't do what was on the list hardly at all... which is amazing for a guy who needs money for rent and a car payment... All he did while we were gone is cause problems here at the house with Pam... [like showing up drunk at midnight and not giving his keys to her when she asked... plus a bunch more bullshit she didnt need and we didnt need while we were gone] We finally had to tell him to stay away from the house till we got home then he says "I knew you'd take your cousins side over mine!" I mean c'mon Kris 'the world is against me' is getting a little bit old... Especially when your 26 years old now...
So we were pissed about Kris and what he didnt do at the high desert...
or the mess he made to put it another way...
Mind you... Kris has laid on my couch the last few days with a toothache... So this morning his face is swollen and he needs to be seen by a dentist.  So Sam paid him for the day he worked recently... Sam wrote him a check this morning. He calls us from the dentist saying it was going to cost such and such plus his prescriptions [like he wanted us to pay for it or something... ya I don't think so... which would be fine but he doesn't appreciate anything we do for him... so sorry Kris... the Mom and Dad bank is closed]
So, Sam told him
"Well Kris, go to the bank and cash your paycheck I just gave you and pay the dentist and get your prescriptions" he was like... Oh he never thought of that! WTH?
So Sam and I are so frustrated and getting more and more pissed by the minute thinking of Kris and his bullshit... 
We decided there was only one thing to do... 
We attacked each other and had sex in the yard on the lounge chair at the high desert...  When you have that much negative energy building in you... you just have to diffuse it with something yanno...
 
[Candice if you chose to read this entry after I told you not to... I am not paying for your therapy... Whenever Candice saw us making out or whatever when she was growing up she would say "OMG you guys are paying for my therapy!"]
 
So anyway... what a day huh!! 
Bottom line with Kris... Sam and I are tired of helping someone who simply chooses not to help himself...  We will not hire him again... He has to find his own way in life... he has to grow up... bottom line... its hard to throw your kids overboard and watch them sink or swim... but sometimes its the best thing you can do for them... 
 
So that was my wonderful day of gratefulness... How was yours ;)
 
I'll post pics of the bike after dinner

6 comments:

candlejmr said...

Poor Candice......

Poor, poor Candice....

I say that because I am pretty sure she read all the way through and now will need some heavy duty therapy.....(lol)

But I think the "sex on the loungechair" is AWESOME!  Maybe they should make a drink named after that....forget "Sex on the Beach."  Go with "Sex on the Chair!"

You totally crack me up woman!!

((hugs))
Jeanne

voliball4me said...

EWWW..... you cant have a title telling me not to read it and expect me not to. Hey you can just transfer the therapy money into the wedding budget, hehe. Love you!

ktchu9 said...

well no,  lets thank his biological mom for his issues.................doesn't she have the same ones???  my god, i wish i had what he has gotten................my god just for someone to hand you a job like you both have done, i would give up somethin g something for................yanno!! lmao well you know me, i'll love him still, but i hope he gets over himself.............cuz i'm his cousin too!! loving all the Silva's inconditionally............

Pam

voliball4me said...

I LOVE YOU PAM!!!!!   My mom blogging about sex on a lounge chair is the least of my therapy I need.... and every time the inappropriate comments would be said- I would tell them they are paying for therapy and all they would say is "wow Candice, that must be sooo horrible to have parents that love each other".....((sigh)) GET a room MOM. lol

Love You~  Hey - thank goodness- at least Im not the one who had a room adjacent to yours.....

eml625 said...

You have done all you can for Kris. Really. He knows it; you both know it and I know it !
Poor Candace, the sex thing, i'm sure she could do without knowing !!! But I love hearing that ! You GO GIRL ! LOL
love ya
E.

queeniemart said...

You two had sex outside? OMG. You know they have cameras in outerspace taking pics of middle aged people doing it out in the public. Crazy ass.

XO